Fix DR-spare path reset on reinstall and tilde-quoting in remote commands

Two stacked bugs, found together when re-running the backup installer to
add an SFTP mirror silently reverted a previously-set absolute
DR_SYNC_PATH back to the script's tilde-based default, which then failed
outright:

1. services/backup.sh never read DR_SYNC_HOST/DR_SYNC_PATH back from an
   existing backup.conf before prompting (every other setting in this file
   does — passwords, mirrors). Accepting the prompt defaults on a rerun
   silently reset both to blank/"~/docker/backup" instead of keeping what
   was already configured. Fixed by reading them back the same way
   DEST_*_PASSWORD already does.

2. extras/backup_kopia.sh's DR-spare sync wraps the remote path in single
   quotes for its `ssh host "mkdir -p '...'"` / `"chmod 600 '.../...'"`
   commands. Single-quoting a leading ~ stops the remote shell from
   expanding it at all, so it looked for a literal directory named "~"
   instead of the home directory — breaking the script's own DEFAULT
   DR_SYNC_PATH ("~/docker/backup") for anyone who actually used it.
   rsync's own transfer step has separate, correct tilde handling, which is
   why the sync itself "succeeded" while the follow-up chmod couldn't find
   the file. Fixed with a small _dr_remote_quote() helper that keeps a
   leading ~/ outside the quotes while still safely quoting the rest of
   the path.

Verified the quoting fix by parsing the exact constructed command string
in bash directly — a plain '~/docker/backup' stays literal (the bug),
~/'docker/backup' correctly expands to $HOME/docker/backup (the fix).

extras/backup_kopia.sh

@@ -229,6 +229,26 @@ done
 # yet. dr_bringup.sh on the spare only needs these two small files — the
 # repo data itself already lives wherever REMOTE_TYPE mirrored it (or is
 # local, if the spare IS that target).
+# Wraps a remote path for use inside a `ssh host "command '...'"` string so
+# it's still safely quoted (spaces etc.) while a leading ~/ stays OUTSIDE
+# the quotes — single-quoting a leading tilde stops the remote shell from
+# expanding it at all, so it goes looking for a literal directory named
+# "~" instead of the actual home directory. Confirmed live: this is exactly
+# what broke `mkdir -p '~/docker/backup'` / `chmod 600 '~/docker/backup/...'`
+# — the DEFAULT DR_SYNC_PATH — while rsync's own transfer step (which has
+# its own tilde-aware remote-path handling, unrelated to shell quoting)
+# succeeded against the exact same path.
+_dr_remote_quote() {
+    local p="$1"
+    if [[ "$p" == "~/"* ]]; then
+        printf "~/'%s'" "${p#\~/}"
+    elif [[ "$p" == "~" ]]; then
+        printf '~'
+    else
+        printf "'%s'" "$p"
+    fi
+}
+
 if [ -n "${DR_SYNC_HOST:-}" ]; then
     _dr_path="${DR_SYNC_PATH:-~/docker/backup}"
     log "Syncing backup.conf + README to spare ($DR_SYNC_HOST:$_dr_path)..."
@@ -240,9 +260,9 @@ if [ -n "${DR_SYNC_HOST:-}" ]; then
     # closed" while plain ssh exec and rsync's own protocol both still work
     # fine over the same connection. Confirmed live: scp failing this way
     # while `ssh "$DR_SYNC_HOST" true` succeeded, rsync doesn't hit it.
-    if ssh -o BatchMode=yes -o ConnectTimeout=10 "$DR_SYNC_HOST" "mkdir -p '$_dr_path'" 2>"$_ERR" \
+    if ssh -o BatchMode=yes -o ConnectTimeout=10 "$DR_SYNC_HOST" "mkdir -p $(_dr_remote_quote "$_dr_path")" 2>"$_ERR" \
         && rsync -a -e 'ssh -o BatchMode=yes -o ConnectTimeout=10' "${_dr_files[@]}" "$DR_SYNC_HOST:$_dr_path/" 2>>"$_ERR" \
-        && ssh -o BatchMode=yes -o ConnectTimeout=10 "$DR_SYNC_HOST" "chmod 600 '$_dr_path/backup.conf'" 2>>"$_ERR"; then
+        && ssh -o BatchMode=yes -o ConnectTimeout=10 "$DR_SYNC_HOST" "chmod 600 $(_dr_remote_quote "$_dr_path/backup.conf")" 2>>"$_ERR"; then
         log "OK spare sync ($DR_SYNC_HOST)"
     else
         _err_text="$(cat "$_ERR" 2>/dev/null)"

services/backup.sh

@@ -563,9 +563,13 @@ install_backup() {
     echo "  up first if you haven't (ssh-keygen, then ssh-copy-id to the spare)."
     echo ""
     local DR_SYNC_HOST="" DR_SYNC_PATH=""
-    prompt_text "  Spare box SSH destination, user@host (blank to skip):" "" DR_SYNC_HOST
+    if [ -f "$CONF_FILE" ]; then
+        DR_SYNC_HOST="$(grep '^DR_SYNC_HOST=' "$CONF_FILE" 2>/dev/null | sed -E "s/^DR_SYNC_HOST='(.*)'\$/\1/")"
+        DR_SYNC_PATH="$(grep '^DR_SYNC_PATH=' "$CONF_FILE" 2>/dev/null | sed -E "s/^DR_SYNC_PATH='(.*)'\$/\1/")"
+    fi
+    prompt_text "  Spare box SSH destination, user@host (blank to skip):" "$DR_SYNC_HOST" DR_SYNC_HOST
     if [ -n "$DR_SYNC_HOST" ]; then
-        prompt_text "  Path for backup.conf/README on the spare:" "~/docker/backup" DR_SYNC_PATH
+        prompt_text "  Path for backup.conf/README on the spare:" "${DR_SYNC_PATH:-~/docker/backup}" DR_SYNC_PATH
         DR_SYNC_PATH="${DR_SYNC_PATH:-~/docker/backup}"
 
         # Catch a missing/unauthorized key now, not at 2am during the first